This discussion seems to come up over and over again, and has people heavily polarized. The ego, is it some evil to be fought against, some sinister force that steals our happiness? Or is it like some unruly child that needs to be tamed, controlled and eventually befriended? Is the ego an enemy or an ally?
I see this question creating much conflict between people, and within them as well. It's a simple question, so why no simple, clear answer? That's easy, it's the question itself is flawed. Only being able to see the ego as a friend or an enemy is a great example of a false dichotomy, which is the illusion of only having two options.
Duality is based upon false dichotomy, good or evil, right or wrong, light or dark. It presents this image of a universe of opposites that oppose each other, and you're supposed to choose one or the other. It's such an incredibly limited, two-dimensional way of looking at things and it's precisely why people have such a hard time transcending the ego.
If you view the ego as a friend, something to shape and control, you're giving your energy away to a false sense of self. If you view the ego as an enemy, something to fight against and defeat, you're still giving away your energy to a false sense of self. Either way you're giving it power, even when fighting it. Somewhere within the mind of the person who fights with the ego is the belief that the ego has control over them, that's why it has to be fought against, correct? And so long as you believe this, it will be true. This belief that the ego has control over you sits in the unconscious, while the ego is struggled with on the surface. You have to look deeper, ask why does the ego have control, and who's giving the ego control?
