As many of you know, I have a past of complicated, codependent, and crazy relationships. I’ve blamed the men, I’ve blamed myself, and for a brief period of time, I thought I found the answer in couples therapy.

And never before have I been more wrong.

Harville Hendrix, the Founder of Imago Therapy, claims that we can change the world by changing our relationships. That sounds nice, until I truly listened.

He believes that we strive to connect to others in order to experience a taste of the joy & love we once received from our primary caregivers. In a recent lecture, he stated that this connection is our deepest desire and losing it is our greatest fear.

If that is true, then does it make any sense to look to another relationship to fix one from the past?

The belief that we would find joy in a lover’s arms because it will temporarily quell a deeper abandonment issue is the exact reason most of us are codependent. We’re constantly searching for a band aid to cover a hemorrhage.

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God said:

  You are My beautiful Being. I speak to everyone. If you could but know the joy you give to Me. You may not feel joyful, and yet I have joy through you. Will you have joy in Me?
 
We call it love. In My case, I am totally unable to do anything but love and love you. You are a favor to Me. I blessed Myself with you when I dreamed of you and created you to behold. I behold Myself in you. Will you do the same? Will you behold yourself in Me?
 
Be daring. Begin to live life with Me. What are you waiting for? If you are waiting for a signal, I have given you many signals. Accept. Accept My invitation. Anyway, it is not daring or brave to do what you are meant to do. You are just a little slow on the uptake. And suspicious, perhaps. You wonder if I am real. Naturally, that makes Me smile.

On the surface it may not seem like the spiritual community is fractured at all, but if you look a little deeper there's very little real unity. I've worked with many of the spiritual teachers, gurus, messiahs, channelers, religious leaders, all the self-proclaimed spiritual authorities and I've noticed they don't get along with each other very well at all. Publicly it's usually all smiles, but when you put them together privately it's something resembling high school drama. These are people who are used to being surrounded by people who automatically believe what they say. When they're out of that element, their beliefs get challenged by other people with strong beliefs, and this almost always results in conflict.

Take channeling for instance and all the people who claim to have "behind the scenes" information. If these are reliable sources of information, their stories should confirm each other, shouldn't they? More often that not, they directly conflict with each other, and there's an excellent example of this with the recent Malaysian airliner disappearance. I counted at least 5 different stories of what happened, and I watched as people fought over which one was correct on Facebook.

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

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http://www.riseearth.com/2014/03/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy.html#.UzMr2IX3Lq0

With 44% of men and 39% of women now being diagnosed with cancer, it has become more important than ever to understand the foods that will not only nourish your body, but also detoxify it of any cancer causing agents. Here are some of the most potent cancer destroying foods and herbs.

Sea Vegetables

Kelp, kombu, and nori are three of the more common sea vegetables with remarkable effects on cancer. They are one of the richest and most bioavailable sources of iodine, a substance lacking in the average diet that is implicated in many patients with breast and ovarian cancer.

They are also rich in calcium and potassium, as well as all minerals, which assist in promoting a very alkaline environment, which makes it very difficult for existing cancer to survive.
 

Algae

Chlorella and spirulina are two of the most potent algae and are proven cancer fighters.

Due to their incredible detoxification action (including binding to and eliminating heavy metals) and immune boosting properties (by promoting production of healthy gut flora and fighting candida overgrowth), they are a must have when healing cancer.

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http://www.riseearth.com/2014/03/top-8-foods-and-herbs-for-healing-cancer.html#.UzMroYX3Lq0