In 1988, Ken Carey, author of Return of the Bird Tribes wrote:
In a healthy state, the ego is a secondary component of identity. Your ego, by nature, is a reflection. It can either be a good, sharp, clear reflection, or it can try to be an independent reflection. Yet logic shows there's no such thing as an “independent reflection.” Your ego may create such an illusion; but if you believe in it, you will be troubled and unfulfilled.
Your ego does not have to be repressed or transcended. It does not have to die. It simply has to assume an appropriate relationship with the spirit that, in truth, you are. (1988)
When we assume a proper relationship with the ego, we can go much, much further. Namely in conflict resolution as the ego is what prevents us from seeing ourselves in a balanced manner.
Love, Light and Blessings to One and ALL