Most of us are unconsciously addicted to neediness. This unconsciousness makes us constantly need others’ love, approval, and attention. In order to get this we go out of our way to do all that which is not true for us.
We forget how to be ourselves. In our neediness, we strive to do the things that the other person likes; we forget what we like.
We put up with things that our body and mind does not approve of, just to satisfy the need of getting the attention of the other person. We easily accept any kind of abuse or humiliation just because of our neediness of the other person’s love, or approval.
This unconscious behavior makes every human relationship painful. Then worry, doubt, stress, and anxiety becomes the norm of everyday life.
We come into this world alone, and we go back alone. We are Divine beings, and our Divinity within is abundant enough to satisfy all our needs. The problem began when we lost focus on our Divinity within, and started focusing on the outside for our needs. Attachment to something outside the self is an illusion. Even if people love each other very much, and tend to cling to each other while awake; at one point sleep walks in and takes away each one to far away mysterious lands.
As soon as our senses start working we see that we are alone, as we never train our senses to go within, we often end up attaching ourselves to people, power, and material things on the outside.
Every indulgence of clinging, or neediness on the outside is a sure sign of forgetting to connect with the Divinity within. Every neediness comes out of the fear of being alone.
When we choose to focus, connect, and grow with the Divinity within us, we are doing real work on this Planet. We become, mature, alert, awake, loving, and compassionate. We become the wellspring of understanding and wisdom. Our actions and relationships are authentic when they come from the place of the Divinity within; all other actions and relationships arise only out of neediness.
Only when we become enlightened and full of the light of wisdom within, we can go beyond need and share our light with others. Otherwise when we have no light in us, we will become addicted to things on the outside to satisfy, and the things on the outside can never satisfy us, we will continue to seek and in our seeking we will not be able to live in our truth.
We can help others only when we have helped ourselves first. I remember the flight safety instructions on the plane, it simply says first put the oxygen mask for yourself before helping anyone else.
Let us choose to identify, to notice our neediness with an open mind, let us catch ourselves in the act of self-sabotage, and change our programming to self-growth and well-being.
Blessings!
~Premlatha Rajkumar~
Comments
Alone
Hi, this goes against what we are taught, that we are never alone, What say you?
We Are Never Alone, We Are One
It is true, we are never alone, we are one, inside and outside. We cannot be one in a dependant relationship where each tries to satisfy the other's needs out of fear of losing them. If we do this, then how can we be sure that the person we are with really loves us, or is simply with us because they are afraid of the alternative? This is exactly what my recent article deals with, and I believe it is a subject which cuts straight to the core of our being, and one most of us find very unsettling:
Chris