“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.” – Eckhart Tolle
When we take something personally we invariably suffer. Why? Because we are believing a thought that claims that reality, what is, should be different than it is. But is this true? Can the present moment be other than it is? No, because there is no other moment available!!
Take a look for yourself. Can you actually find some other moment (like an alternate reality hiding somewhere “off stage”) besides the one that is presently appearing? No, you cannot. Which is why resistance to what is brings suffering; you are rejecting the only thing that actually IS, for something imaginary, which IS NOT. That’s insane.
“When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” – Byron Katie
