Heavenletter #4256 Published on: July 20, 2012
Do not dissemble. Do not make statements that are not so. Do you think you create harmony when you tell a sales clerk you will come back later when it is the case that you have no intention of coming back later? What makes you think that by slurring over the truth that you are being kind, or do you perhaps think you are being clever?
You do not have to come back later. You are not obligated. How much kinder you would be to say you are going to keep looking. It doesn't take more words. Did you think it was nicer of you to say you would come back? What were you thinking? Untruth is untruth. Give truth to another and do not kid yourself.
The salesperson has had enough experience to know that you are not going to come back. And so you make the sales clerk be false with her smile and bobbing her head.
You are being like the man who tells the woman, "I'll call you," when he is not interested.
You are someone who would never tell a lie, and, yet, when you dissemble, you are telling a lie, and there is no need to. We are talking about daily living. Be admirable. Speak the truth softly.
It is as if you are putting something over on someone, as if, for once in your life, you have the upper hand. You do not have to be a King or Queen with power, and you never have to mislead by pretense.
It is kinder to let others know where they stand. It is better for you to be truthful. With truth you open doors. With untruth, you close doors. It is unsightly to demean another and yourself with untruth.
This is something basic We are addressing here. It is slipperiness We are addressing. Make your words match up with truth. Do not make false promises. There is neither need nor virtue.
There are many ways that you can make the world a better place. Dissembling is not one of them. Eluding truth is not a virtue. It is not lovely. It is not a blessing. It is a mistruth.
Sometimes you say something, and, at the time, you mean it or think you mean it. Then, away from the situation, you see in a different way. When your heart is no longer where it was, do not evade. Open up. Otherwise, you close out.
If you are a student and you have a teacher you do not like, it is not your province to let the teacher know. That is unnecessary. And so you ask yourself, in being polite, are you not being untruthful? You would be untruthful if you fawned on the teacher you do not value. Good manners are common courtesy. It is not courteous to be rude any more than it is courteous to speak that which is not true.
Make your promises come true, or don't promise. Let your words have substance. This is good for the people you interact with. It is of the utmost importance to you. Most of all, it is yourself you do not want to belie.
You do not see yourself as someone who would deal falsely, and yet you have dealt falsely. Once is too much. Please be faithful to yourself and the integrity of your word. It is a beautiful thing to be in your truth. Do not belie yourself. Make your word valid. Do not stand people up. Do not make an appointment unless you're going to keep it.
Carry a flag of truthfulness before you.