The universe does not work in negatives, it responds to the essence of your focus. Children work very much in this way, as well. This explains why if you tell a toddler, “Don’t hit”, they will often turn around and hit. It is not that they are naughty or defiant, it is that they only heard the essence of the sentence, hit, and responded in kind. Asking the child to be gentle will have a much more desired effect for changing behaviour because the focus is on what core energy you wish for them to shift into.
This explains why you cannot create change from a negative focus. Making choices to avoid something that is unwanted is keeping you energetically attached to what is unwanted. Further, focusing on what is unwanted naturally creates resistance and constriction within your own energetics. You cannot create from a space of contraction, only through expansion.
Do you see? Again we say, your focus is your blessing of continuation. What is the essence of what you would like to experience? Shift into your heart and allow it to lead the way, for by identifying what you would like more of, you naturally activate a process that begins to navigate towards that desire. This is great power in practicing preference and inclusion. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young