A couple of people emailed me a similar question last week about big changes that are happening in their relationship. One has ended a long-term relationship, while the other is in a good marriage yet has found there is a strong energy connection with someone else. Both asked if there were any insights that could help their respective situations. I've covered this topic in this week's Let Love In webcast, but here's my response in case you are going through something similar:
Essentially as one person awakens or has a "growth spurt", one of two things are tending to happen: the relationship (and partner) is called to shift to a higher, deeper level or one person shifts while the other doesn't (or they shift in different directions), triggering the end of that union, or resulting in an uncomfortable experience until something changes.
In this new evolutionary cycle we are experiencing the end of karmic relationships and dynamics..that is, the end of the relationships primary purpose being the healing of old wounds and issues, healing inner child and past life stuff etc. As we move into wholeness and are taking greater responsibility for our own emergence, we are connecting in a new way. Our relationships are more now about supporting and encouraging each other to expand into our wholeness, to be all we are here to be, rather than fill someone else's "hole" or hold their stuff for them.
It is also common to meet someone who triggers all of this for you, and increasingly this is happening while people are in relationship with someone else. This then forces the question for people: am I happy in my relationship, am I not? If not, why not? Is there something my partner and I can do/need to do to regain connection and intimacy or is our time done? These triggers are ideally used in a conscious, responsible way. That is, they are an opportunity for a new level of conversation and connection in your current relationship.
Sometimes those coming along are your next mate, albeit unexpected and unplanned, other times they are a soul 'trigger' mate, destined to come along to shake things up and turn you toward your new direction - in love, and other ways also.
Are you finding that there are lots of relationship shifts going on in your lives and around you?
(c) Dana Mrkich 2015
Comments
Relationships . Triggering and shifting
Thanks Dana,
This is a good insight. Although the thought was always lingering , I had brushed it aside and reassured myself that if ever I had to leave my long relationship with the woman of my life, I will continue my journey alone.
The thought of hurting my love ones by sharing my life with another partner seems not an option for me , even if the possibility of achieving wholeness will present a higher probability. I believe I am relentlessly pursuing the ideal in my present relationship and any other relationship outside will only help me achieve that which I seek. Will I attract another partner and assume myself as being in a much better place in my journey by doing so remains to be seen.
Namasté