God said:
You spend your heart and soul and world time and energy on matters of the world that seem very important. You feel you have to succeed at them, or you fail at life. You really believe you cannot live without whatever your heart is set on. The idea that you must absolutely have something in order to be happy is an illusion.
You impose this idea upon yourself. You are habituated to the idea that there is something you must have, or that you are nothing without it. That you are alive on Earth doesn't mean you have to have everything the way you want it. You can accept less and be just fine.
It's just that you are accustomed to the whole charade. You habituate yourself into being in a tizzy. You got used to it. In a tizzy, you know you are alive. Without a tizzy, you may not feel you are up and running.
Agitation is some kind of comfort-food for you, or, We can say, it is like your cigarette of choice. Smoking your cigarette may make you cough. You may not like the cough, but you sure like puffing on that cigarette. It's not so easy to give up a habit.
As you see it, a cigarette settles you down. It grounds you. You put up with the cigarette for the sake of restoring calmness. Calmness soothes a calamity. Beloved, must you go through the rigmarole? Is intensity the sole option you have to choose? May I ask: Do you really think that agitation is your Soul's only option? Isn't this intense choice second-best at best? Why go through the same course of events time and time again?