Feeling sorry for yourself supports the idea of being a victim. There is more to life than being a victor or a victim. One of two ways is not the way to look at life. Life is not a question of Mine or thine. Life is not a question of kill or be killed. Life is not a question of right or wrong. Life usually isn’t so clear as a Yes or a No. Alas, what are opposites but judgment whether of another or yourself? There is no scale sensitive enough to weigh wonderfulness or lack of wonderfulness.
Either/or exists in life in the world. In the world, something is or it is not. In Truth, there are ripples of opportunity. Either/or is fiction. Between black and white, there are many shades of color. This is where understanding comes into the picture.
Good and bad are not so structured as the world would have them. What is mercy but seeing more possibilities? What is understanding but understanding greater than opposites? That which is called wrong action – what is it but misunderstanding or lack of understanding? In the darkness of viewpoint, it is so easy to mistake a tree for a goblin.
It is better to include than exclude. Whenever you feel yourself dismissing someone or something, pause and think again how this serves you, the seeming other, and the world. Or does it serve judgment?
There is intention. You do not always see what another intends. Another is not always himself aware of what he intends.