Do you have a deep need of labels in order to feel secure? We often see this in relationships but it can occur in many other areas of life, as well. Most people use labels as a way of controlling things, as a way of constraining energy and looking for predictability. But the more you identify with a label, the more you might be limiting yourself, instead.

You see this often in couples. They quickly cycle through labels, from dating, to being exclusive, to being engaged, to being married. And have you ever noticed that many people, once they make it to the promised land of marriage seem to fall into a rut? They see marriage as the pinnacle, and think there is nowhere else to go from there.

Energy cannot be restrained. If you can see yourselves as energetic beings that are on the planet to grow and evolve, you can see how harmful and uncomfortable it would be to try to constrain it. Ironically, if you reach a point where the growth and expansion has stopped, there will be no energetic support to the activity. So the label that you have sought to secure a relationship, should it start to stall the growth of one or both people in the union, will be the very thing that will make your relationship fall apart.

Can you look in the mirror at yourself with love today? Can you speak only tender words to and about yourself today? If this seems like a daunting task, you have just uncovered what is most pressing for you to do for your growth and evolution. ~Archangel Gabriel

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Many of you have asked, “How do I love myself?” You can become more loving to yourself in many ways, but most important of all, it means becoming a safe person for yourself. Are you a safe person for yourself to be exposed to? If not, what can you do to become so? A good place to start is with kindness, consistency, encouragement, and inclusion. ~Archangel Gabriel

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The flow is an incredibly intelligent and efficient system, designed to give you exactly what you need at any given time. To be resistant is to deny yourself the support and movement to get to your next grand expression of self.

Surrender is the entry point of the flow. The flow is where the movement is. You stay in the flow by following your heart, by doing what honours you, by following the path of least resistance and joy. You steer your flow though gratitude and allow it to lead you by following the signs and synchronicities. You use faith and trust to stay consistently in the flow long enough for the magic to happen.

If you have surrendered but are not experiencing movement, one of two things are possible. One is that you are in an energetic lull, where things are coming together behind the scenes. The other is that you are in resistance, by continuing to refuse to give up something that you know is not for your highest good, or continuing to engage in what is unwanted. Discomfort is always, always, an indicator of resistance.

If you are sitting there waiting to be saved, you are seeing yourself as a victim. Surrender and flow are a co-creational process. They are not about giving your power away, but rather about moving forward in your authentic power, making choices that honour you, one Now moment at a time.

Dear Ones, if you are having problems with your relationships with others, it is a sign that you are having problems with your relationship with yourself. It is simply an indicator to start asking, “How am I not there for myself?” Or, “How have others not been there for me in the past, and how can I go fulfill that role for myself now?”

You are at a stage in your journey where relationships are coming much more to the forefront. Ultimately, it is your relationship with all the aspects of you that will set the tone for your interactions with others. So we recommend you sit with yourself and ask, “What do I need from myself today? What did I need before that I didn’t get that I can give myself today?” You might be surprised at what comes up into your awareness.

When you understand that you can fill in the gaps – that you can, with your wisdom and love, complete the job others could not do for you, you automatically start to shift from victim consciousness. You also start to see that even though people may have erred and not been able to give you what you needed, that you can now step up and, being the expert on you, fulfill that role. You will see that it can really be okay after all, that you can heal, and evolve, and thrive. You may even get to the point where you can thank another for shining the spotlight on what was begging for your love and attention all along. (smiles) ~Archangel Gabriel