You do not transform painful emotions by fleeing from them, denying them, or resisting them. Nor do you transform them by feeding or magnifying them.
In truth, they transform themselves; but only when you are ready to accept them; and to affirm, at the deepest levels, that you already are the person you long to be.
How can a condition be transformed when one refuses to acknowledge or to feel it? This is one of the secrets to self-mastery; to never wage war against yourself, but to simply allow yourself to be, refocus, and affirm. Then you can acknowledge your fear, rage, self-pity, jealousy, projection, rationalization, self loathing, and powerlessness; and say, "Hello my dears, beloved ones, thank you for coming once again to help me on my path of liberation. I do not deny you your due, but I affirm the underlying majesty of my being from which you have sprung."
"When this new sensation of self arises, it is at once exhilarating and a little disconcerting. It is like the moment when you first got the knack of swimming or riding a bicycle. There is the feeling that you are not doing it yourself, but that it is somehow happening on its own, and you wonder whether you will lose it -- as indeed you may if you try forcibly to hold on to it. In immediate contrast to the old feeling, there is indeed a certain passivity to the sensation, as if you were a leaf blown along by the wind, until you realize that you are both the leaf and the wind. The world outside your skin is just as much you as the world inside: they move together inseparably, and at first you feel a little out of control because the world outside is so much vaster than the world inside. yet you soon discover that you are able to go ahead with ordinary activities -- to work and make decisions as ever, though somehow this is less of a drag. Your body is no longer a corpse which the ego has to animate and lug around. There is a feeling of the ground holding you up, and of hills lifting you when you climb them. Air breathes itself in and out of your lungs, and instead of looking and listening, light and sound come to you on their own. Eyes see and ears hear as wind blows and water flows. All space becomes your mind. Time carries you along like a river, but never flows out of the present: the more it goes, the more it stays, and you no longer have to fight or kill it."
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