God said:
Let go of that whole idea of tit for tat, for this gets you nowhere.
Of course, if someone is wonderful to you, you want to reciprocate in kind. Loving is a goal you set for yourself yet not for anyone else. Be the love you long to receive. In love, you do not take offense.
If someone offends you, there is no need for you to give back in kind. You retaliate only when you feel resentment or outright anger.
The question to ask yourself is what do you gain from this anger? Smugness, perhaps. The last word, perhaps. An impasse, perhaps. What would you want those for?
What do you want your life this round to offer you?
If you would like expansion, expand.
If you would like friendship, be a friend.
If you would like respect, be respectful.
If you would like good manners, give good manners.
If you would like to be loved, then love yourself first.
If you would like to be begrudged, then begrudge others.
If you would like to be nagged, then nag.
If you would like to be unappreciated, then don't appreciate.
If you would like to be discounted, then discount others.
If you would like an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth, count offenses. There is no need for you to specialize in being offended. It is not recommended.
Live that which you desire.
By and large, you give what you get. With exceptions, of course. And here's the thing: